Today the #MeToo hashtag and social media phenomenon found its way onto my newsfeeds and friends’ pages.

I have few words in this case. And they all hurt.

#MeToo is a stark and simple way for anyone who has been the victim of sexual harrassment or assault to say so, and in the process illustrate just how utterly, utterly prevalent it is. Everywhere.

I’m heartbroken by the number of friends and family I’ve seen reposting this message, and equally heartbroken by how completely unsurprising it is to see.

Because I knew.

I knew all along. And I’m sorry for being part of the silence.

About Hatboy

I’m not often driven to introspection or reflection, but the question does come up sometimes. The big question. So big, there’s just no containing it within the puny boundaries of a single set of punctuationary bookends. Who are these mysterious and unsung heroes of obscurity and shadow? What is their origin story? Do they have a prequel trilogy? What are their secret identities? What are their public identities, for that matter? What are their powers? Their abilities? Their haunted pasts and troubled futures? Their modus operandi? Where do they live anyway, and when? What do they do for a living? Do they really have these fantastical adventures, or is it a dazzlingly intellectual and overwrought metaphor? Or is it perhaps a smug and post-modern sort of metaphor? Is it a plain stupid metaphor, hedged around with thick wads of plausible deniability, a soap bubble of illusory plot dependent upon readers who don’t dare question it for fear of looking foolish? A flight of fancy, having dozed off in front of the television during an episode of something suitably spaceship-oriented? Do they have a quest, a handler, a mission statement, a department-level development objective in five stages? I am Hatboy. https://hatboy.blog/2013/12/17/metalude-who-are-creepy-and-hatboy/
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2 Responses to #MeToo

  1. brknwntr says:

    There was a point in my life where every female I was friends with had been molested. I only ever knew who one of the abusers was though. And while I dealt with that situation, there was nothing I could do to help the others except listen. That was what they needed. If you were also able to do that, then you did your job.

  2. thelinza says:

    Listening is all you really can do, because there’s exactly one chance to get that right for someone. The first person they tell, the response they get from that person, is how it seems like it’s going to be from everyone. So if they respond with “shut up you’ll ruin his life,” it feels like everyone is going to respond that way, and it never gets told again. Including to the authorities, who also do a shitty job of responding because anyone in a position of authority has like a 50% chance of being a sociopath. So yeah, keep listening and believing and being good at it, because it’s rare.

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