Day 35. 161 pages, 58,131 words.
I don’t know if I’ve ever actually talked about Trump, or Republicans, or US politics in any non-general way before on my blog. Clearly it’s been sorely missed and the world can’t live without another opinion.
 Okay, there was this one. And a similarly sci-fi-themed one about Star Trek. And I did get semi-serious about USian politics here. But mostly I’ve been pretty lax in my duties as an armchair commentator, you’d have to agree.
Well, I’m still not really going to talk about actual politics, so much as a talking-point or issue raised recently in the pursuit of politics. And the issue is this:
Apparently the other day, either Donald Trump or Ivanka Trump or some other hideously out-of-touch and sociopathic Capitol-dweller said that being a mother was the most important job a woman could have. And the Internet lost its mind.
Of course, it doesn’t take much to make the Internet lose its mind. Here’s a small selection of previous cases.
Here’s the thing.
Um, isn’t it?
I know, I know. I can’t expect to weigh in on this, as a man, and come out of it smelling like roses. The best I can hope for is a solid label of MANSPLAINER. Oh well. If anyone who knows me wants to hit me with that, I look forward to seeing the justification – heck, I’ll probably cop to it, although don’t expect me to care. If anyone who doesn’t know me wants to have a go … well, I’ll just cut straight to the not caring, I think.
And I know, Trump phrased it terribly, making it seem like a woman-belittling declaration of irrelevance and disregard of every organ a woman possesses aside from the womb. Shit, when he-or-she said it, that’s probably what it was. I’m not about to give them the benefit of the doubt at this stage.
Of course I don’t think that “being a mother” is the only important job a woman can have. Nor do I think that “mother” is a mandatory job for a woman to have. Nor do I think that no woman who isn’t a mother can possibly have an important job or indeed, logically, a most important job.
So it looks like, on the face of it, that I completely disagree with this disgusting and misogynistic or internally misogynistic pronouncement, right?
What I believe is that being a mother is the most important job a woman can have, if a woman is a mother.
Guess what? I think being a father is the most important job a man can have, if a man is a father.
If you decide to be a parent, if you decide to raise a child, then that is your most important job. You are a parent first. Being a parent is your alpha and your omega. Anything else you do, whether it is working to put food on the table or working to improve the planet or expressing your artistic passions or just breathing in and out – those are all a distant second, and most of them are important at least in part for the benefit they provide to your child.
Are you a theoretical particle physicist, or a cancer researcher, or a social worker or a palliative care nurse? Awesome, my deepest respects. That’s the most important job you can have. Whatever you feel you need to do, whatever you’re driven to do, whatever you do that contributes to society – that’s important and you should be celebrated for it.
 If it doesn’t contribute to society, we can probably still talk about it. Not everything has to have a practical function … but there are all sorts of ways a society can be contributed to.
Are you a mother and a theoretical particle physicist, or a mother and a cancer researcher, or a mother and a social worker or a mother and a palliative care nurse? Guess what, the mother part is more important.
Is a random mother more important than a random peace-treaty-formulating diplomat? No. Oh, actually yes – to her kid, she is.
I wouldn’t dream of belittling or disregarding anyone simply because they don’t have kids. That’s completely irrelevant. But since I have kids, I have absolutely no problem bumping every other responsibility and creative endeavour in my life down to a lower priority. My kids are the part of me that I am sending into the future to represent our species. There is nothing more important than that.
So here I am, agreeing with at least one interpretation of something a Trump said.
If you want to get mad and shout about some other interpretation – arguably the accurate interpretation – of the thing a Trump said, that’s up to you. The Internet needs more shouting.